Drugs December 14, 2009
Should I get an epidural? I woke up today and realized that I’m 33 weeks pregnant, which is probably about time to start thinking about the whole labor and delivery process. During my first pregnancy I decided I really wanted a natural childbirth. Then somewhere around seven centimeters dilation, I changed my mind and decided that yes, definitely yes, I needed that epidural. By that point though, it was too late. I didn’t realize it in the moment, but I was actually almost done with labor. So in the end I did have Sky epidural-free, and I’m glad for that because it’s what I’d originally wanted. I’m just not sure I want to do it again.
Becoming a mother is one of the best things that’s ever happened to me. But the birth experience was nothing like I’d expected. I’d heard over and over about the rush of hormones you get after natural childbirth and how you forget what you’ve just endured physically once your baby is placed in your arms. That didn’t happen for me. When I look back at the birth experience, the main thing I remember is the pain (the PAIN) and how I was shaking so much afterward I didn’t feel like I should hold my child at all for a while. Even though I’d prayed for little Skylar Grace more than I’ve prayed for anything in my life, I didn’t feel instantly bonded to her.
I realize though, that every birth experience is different. Sky was posterior as she came down the birth canal and hopefully this baby won’t be. Maybe I should give natural birth another try. I have a much better idea of what to expect now, and maybe an epidural wouldn’t solve any problems; maybe it would actually create some new ones. Or maybe it would be wonderful. Maybe I would be more mentally present without the intense pain and more aware in the moment of how incredible it is to see a new life (our son!) enter the world.
I’m blessed to know many women with all different ideas about birth and babies and motherhood. What do you think? I’d love to hear your thoughts…